tbart she's sending you mixed signals because she's mixed up. It's the roller coaster ride. Best case scenario - no matter which signal she gives you, you take them the same way. As if they are nothing. You keep steady while she sends all these signals.
If it's a positive signal - you think: ok, this is a signal at the exact point in time. It means nothing.
If it's a negative signal - you think: ok, this is a signal at this exact point in time. It means nothing.
When you see a 'signal' we start to project that into the future as if it will stay. When it switches to the other side we start to project that into the future as if it will stay like that.
It's our projecting into the future that is the problem, not the mixed signals. This is where the confusion comes from.
We see an 'apparently' good signal, we go up in hope and feel good. We see an 'apparently' bad signal, we go down and feel bad.
Get it?
Here's a good story for you:
We'll See...
There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.
"Such bad luck," they said sympathetically.
"We'll see," the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.
"How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.
"We'll see," replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
"We'll see," answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
