thanks from me too snodderly. I so thought I was over and done with all of this. I pray that somehow someday I will be. One way or another. thank you, toh
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
Sometimes we have to decide when its over and enough is enough.I heard a story the other day where a guy had an A and left his wife to be with OW.The wedding was booked for Xmas 09(after 7 years together).The ow called it off and he called his wife saying he had made the biggest mistake of his life!..7 years! She told him to get lost although less politely.We can be in the driving seat. I D my H and remarried him 3 years later..nothing has to be final if you and God decide it can work.
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
I wonder how that story would have ended if the XW wasn't plan B? As in...I wonder how she woul dhave reacted if the XH had been the one to call off the wedding. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Yes very interesting these WAS are never out of reach.There is always a chance...Its shows how some appreciate the love that was once there that they find the bravery when its too late
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
But the truth of the matter is H was drunk when he called and texted. Nothing from him sober for a very long time. Well a couple of attempts but not hard ones. So in reality, H could very much still be deep in MLC. Or he could really be done and just feeling sorry for himself because OW and him had broken up, even though he's the one that ended it.
I want to be strong. If there ever comes a day that XH does want to come back to me I don't want it to be easy for him. I want to know that he REALLY does love ME and only me. That he REALLY does want to spend the rest of his life with me. I want to know that he's not just coming back because that's all he has left.
But I have to be honest here and with myself. I miss my XH very much. And I love him as much today as 25 years ago. But I am different today and so is he.
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
It hurts so much when you see glimpses of the old H, I know. I've been there... I look at the drunk thing a little differently. Yes, I know it's hurtful and dangerous, and I'm not arguing that at all. However, alcohol lowers your inhibitions, so think of it that way, his subconscious is calling you when he calls you drunk. Still don't believe what he's saying, because he's confused and angry still. However, know that he's not disconnected entirely because when he's lowered his inhibitions, he's trying to connect with you.
What I believe Pass is that no matter what he does, who he is with, where he goes, what he says, his heart will always be with me. I know that this man will always love me first and foremost and that his life will never be right without me in it.
That is why he called. That is why he cries.
BUT it's HIS life and he's made his choices. I guess it's up to him where he goes from here.
For me I have to continue to work through all of this and keep on keeping on. Tomorrow is a new day and who knows...
TOH
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
Remember, your old life has gone, you have let it go.Its a mistake I believe lots of couples make.If he comes back then you are right both of you will be different and it would be time to build a new stronger life for you both if thats what you want...always move forward never go back.
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
This is not a scary thought, actually. Leaving the old life behind is so welcome to me now. I'm looking forward to that immensely.
I told my H early on when he started acting strange and I knew potentially he had a new OW in his life that I was going to take care of myself, do things to make myself happy and go on adventures and if he wanted to, he was always welcome. I don't think it registered then, but maybe one day that will come back to him from out of the fog... my new life looks great, if I can just LET GO of the rope. I slackened it but then when I turn to go, it becomes taught again... so I have to release it entirely...
It sounds like you have done that OOH and that's wonderful.
