You will make it through this. I know your how hard it is for you right now everyone here has gone through the pain your experiencing. I f you read my whole sitch, it has taken me that long to really accpt that things may not work out. I am learning to detatch for W and if you could manage to do this you will feel better.
Keep telling your kids kids you love them and everything will be OK. They need your support and don't let them see you cry.
As for H actions, he will blame you for all that's wrong, that's what WAS do. Continue to work on you and spend time with family and friends.
Coach posted this on my sitch a few weeks ago and it has helped me. I hope it helps you.
Quote:
In a business book by James C. Collins called Good to Great, Collins writes about a conversation he had with Stockdale regarding his coping strategy during his period in the Vietnamese POW camp.[6]
"I never lost faith in the end of the story, I never doubted not only that I would get out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade."[7]
When Collins asked who didn't make it out of Vietnam, Stockdale replied:
"Oh, that’s easy, the optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said, 'We're going to be out by Christmas.' And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they'd say, 'We're going to be out by Easter.' And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart."[7]
Stockdale then added:
"This is a very important lesson. You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end—which you can never afford to lose—with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.”[7]
Witnessing this philosophy of duality, Collins went on to describe it as the Stockdale Paradox.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
