I don't have any advice, I just wanted you to know that I'm reading & people are here for you.
Stay strong & listen to everyone. This is hard, but I think everyone is right, your W sounds confused and hurt and lost and is just blaming all of it on you. It's easier that way. Keep on doing what you're doing--your doing great.
hang in there.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.