Simple. Reverse the roles. They want to come home? Make them do everything you did initially when they left and you wanted them to come home: Persue, beg, cling. Adapt a "show me" attitude.

And state your boundries clear and without wiggle room, if there's a OP involved, the first sign of faulter, you're gone.

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11