When she sends an email telling you she finally got the kids in bed, don't answer it. After all, why should she be sending something like that except to pull you into a "discussion" and you want to avoid doing that.

Just ignore those types of emails or TM. If it sounds very important, wait a little while before you respond.....b/c you don't want to appear to be sitting on top of your phone/computer looking to see if she is going to contact you. You are a man who is building a life without her.

Do what Greek said, and believe me....your W will notice! Begin to pull away and get out of that house and GAL. Act up-beat and confident. Be that man she fell in love with...only better. Don't put all of your attention on her....put it on you and the kids. Make a bedroom for the kids and include them in how they want to fix it up....regardless of how it may look, b/c they will love it and want to be there.

BTW, I suspect your W wants you to attend Church with her and the kids so nobody will know what is really going on. It's a cover-up job.





Last edited by sandi2; 04/28/10 09:43 AM.
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