Separated in different countries... please help!

[fullmoon]

I'm not sure if my situation is applicable here as my M is not a long one… but it'd be great if I can get some opinions on what to do as I'm really confused and am desperate for some help.
I've been with my H for 4 years, out of which we've been married for 2. I'm 38 and my H is 37, we have no kids.

Our R was very rocky from early on.
For me, the major issue has always been that H was extremely indecisive and irresponsible… he is easily influenced by others which he saw as 'I'm too nice and soft'. If the decision 'we' made doesn't turn out well, he would blame me or something else.
He had a strong belief that 'when you find someone right, you don't need to work on your R = it's an eternal bliss' and
'W or GF should be understanding no matter what'. He wouldn't do anything other than go to work, he'd even complain about waiting for me in the car while I rushed to finish grocery shopping. If he couldn't sleep at night, he'd ask (more like insist) me to give him a massage. I also had to cut his hair as he 'liked it better' that way. To friends he is really nice and sweet.
Anytime I raised concern about his not carrying his weight around, he would avoid it completely by ignoring me.
To which I nagged big time, and he would respond with 'everyone tells me this R is not right if you need to put in so much effort'.

What I'd like to ask is… we are now separated in different countries and I'm lost as to what to do.
We lived overseas and separated as we left the country, H to his and me back to mine. My belongings are being shipped to MIL's place (his country) as when we shipped them we planned to live in his country.

I'm not sure if I am the WAW? Although I have nagged and nagged, I have always felt that somehow he thinks he is better than me and disrespects me. When we argued he'd usually yell mean stuff to me such as 'disappear' '*uck off never show your face again' 'you're not a good value' 'not even physically normal (too ugly)'
I feel that if I approach to make it right, he will just take advantage of it as usually I'm the one to bend and it won't be a 180.
I also cannot remember much of good times together as I did almost everything on my own.

Since we've separated, we exchanged several blame-game emails, but I've gone dark after reading DR.

How should I take it from here? Please help….


Thank you in advance for reading my post and your take on my stitch.