My story and commitment to move forward

[Surviving03]

Mike where did you go?? Our situations are very different, but I will tell you this much... when my sitch first went down I spent alot of time blaming myself for my screw ups in our M and feeling like I owed him something so he could "figure himself out" my H was involved in a EA which may have been a PA but I dont have evidence of that a PA... however, even with the EA I felt like I need to let him ride it out and get that out of his system, etc.... but it was only when I actually laid some boundaries, stuck with them.... told him basically that if he chooses to do those things over working on our M, then he can go kick rocks cause Im not having it.... and I made it very clear that I had no problem leaving without looking back.... THAT is when my sitch turned around and he wanted to try to work on the M.

DO NOT let your wife do these things (have sex with OM) and then be waiting for her back at home with open arms.... DONT DO IT! Man up... lay the boundaries... and stick to them.

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