I love and adore you. I know that means jack at a time like this but we are all here for you. I am proud of you for protecting yourself and your children and realizing you have value beyond what I can express.
I am here and you know how to reach me if you need me.
I will watch Three's Company all night if I have to
[quote=luvlessI guess when he sees the paperwork he won't care...he'll just get angry. Then again I don't know why this is what he wanted [/quote]
From what you've written, I really do think he will care. He will cry. He will probably get very, very angry, too. If he's drinking, who knows what would happen...
I'm guessing he won't tell you how bad he felt, as a guy, we often don't say everything we need to when we need to. Just know that your decision is something that he has pressed for through his actions, regardless of how he feels. It may take two to tango, but stepped on feet can only last so long, I guess.
When he's yelling or saying something nasty, I'm going to guess he will, be calm. He, you, and your children need your strength.
Him: to know that you are hurt, not trying to hurt You: to truly listen so you can walk toward whatever future is laying there. You have kids, he will continue to be in your life in some way or anther. Open the doors that are safe so he doesn't try to bust them down. Your kids: Most of all them. That man will always be their dad. They may be angry with him and you. Show them you aren't being moved by anger.
Good luck and God's help, Luv. The sun will be up tomorrow, but it might be a sleepless night. Breathe.
(((Luv))) you're in a really hard place. Thinking of you and wishing you and your children the peace that you deserve.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Luv, you did the right thing! It's a huge step and I know it must have been tough but you've already done the hard part. This will be the first step towards life 2.0!
Strength and peace to you!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Shel - I woke up at 3:30a and couldn't go back to sleep. I am just constantly having interrupted sleep. I am plagued with thoughts I started crying and I was thinking he doesn't even care. I finally fell back to sleep at 5:30 just to have a dream about him telling me he was sorry. Talk about being haunted..awake and even in my sleep.
Spy - I'm sad today (when aren't I lately huh?) I'm really trying here.
Well Mr. Luv was served last night at 9:40 pm per attorney. I was ok all day knowing he'd get the papers that night but as evening came I started to really feel anxiety about it. Why was I worried about how he felt? I felt bad for him. I'm sitting here filling out support papers and it's just too upsetting. Why is he putting me through this?
My name is so appropriate.....
luvless
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
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