Just realized today that my main emotional need wasn't sex, although that might be number 2 (:
I realized that when I stepped back to examine what made me angry yesterday, that many of my most unsatisfied moments that led to arguments is likely my core EN - affirmation. That also explains why I react negatively from criticism that I deem as a personal attack but can take a complaint just fine. I even request them, as long as I have a chance to 'explain' (regain affirmation?)
That also explains why W's emotional reactions I could handle...until they became decisions. Decisions to separate or D from her take away so much love from the love bank as it hits my key EN.
Maybe I got this wrong...it seems to make sense, though.
