Thanks for the suggestion NCB. STBXW and I were mandated to a P.E.A.C.E. program early on during the start of the D process. Honestly, she violated nearly every principle taught in the class.
I don't believe we have any mandated post-D courses or classes here in NY. Again, I truly doubt that STBXW would be able to make any positive changes..even as small as your xW's...in the near future.
FIB
My X also violated every principle covered in the class I attended, then questioned whether I had gone when I didn't blindly go along with something ridiculous he wanted (I can't even remember what anymore.) I tend to agree with you Frank, some people, including your STBXW and my X, are incapable of seeing what they are doing as wrong. They have somehow cast themselves as the victims, and we are the villains. Trying to reason with them is an exercise in futility. Don't waste energy that could be better used enjoying your children!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
