Piano, Here's a quote from Psy Today. "The better the marriage, the saner and more sensible the spouse, the more alienated the romantic is likely to feel. Romantic affairs happen in good marriages even more often than in bad ones."
WhatNow, thankyou for this gift. It came at the right time for me. It describes my WAH and his A to a T.
Especially this bit: "People are most likely to get into these romantic affairs at the turning points of life: when their parents die or their children grow up...etc etc...or when their first child is born—any situation in which they must face a lot of reality and grow up".
Piano, said this previously, he is not going to be sensitive to the the reality the birth of a child does but he will, if it doesnt hit his heart strings nothing will.Be patient I am not sure its all over for you...Here is a poem that is a thought I am sure all our WAS will have. http://agathaweeks.com/testimonyofafool.html
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ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
I am trying to figure out why infidelity education is not part of a child's upgringing... I guess its because of how unsavoury the subject is... people dont' want to talk about it.. even if they should...
I was brought up to realise cheating on your R partner was wrong.My M had an A with my D and even that has been difficult to deal with.(my mum didnt tell me for a long time)They have been together 45years and almost half of that has been a miserable existence for her.She believes its her punishment for doing what she done but Mum got the usual lies from Dad that M was over. I think there should be more..less about all these multiple birth families and more about real lives
ME 44 H 45 D 14 D 20 M 22 YEARS TOGETHER 28YEARS Bomb Drop 14th July 09 Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09) MLC 3years
Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith
What about OTHER people such as friends engaging in infidelity... did your parents tell you how they expect you to handle yourself with that?
Most North American culture sources discourage infidelity, but there is very little education on how to react to it when you encounter it, either by your partner or by a friend doing it...
There are many cultures throughout history that have advocated infidelity and encouraged and celebrated it... With the movement to marriage for love and the decline of marriage as a political activity, we should have seen a decline in infidelity, but I doubt it has declined at all...
