but i'd be living in la-la land if i accepted his terms and let him ride around on a motorcycle that i was liable for.
By no means do I think you should give in to irrational demands, you both need fairness. I don't know if it will ever be truly fair because emotions are involved.
Now isn't time to punish with consequences. Just be fair and you'll not regret that.
Originally Posted By: Ruined_No_More
Blah, blah, blah, script, BS, justification, shirking any/all responsibility. I've gotten this speech from H myself. Every time I hear it, I picture a clucking hen. Helps me not internalize/believe the b.s. my H is throwing in the path.
Number8 was talking about "rational detatchment". This seems to make sense - not full detatchment...rational. Able to feel, but not let your feelings effect decision making. It may be all BS, but to him, it is real. If there was only a pill for that...~
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
my mother insists that he just doesn't want to be married. that the mistakes i made weren't deal breakers and that he just wanted to walk away from this with his hands clean.
Don't forget - from the getgo your mom also hasn't supported trying anything with him. Make sure not to be swayed to any direction except the one you decide calmly and carefully to head in. You can change directions later, but you don't want to be blaming anyone subconsciously with "if I had only" or "I wonder if I had".
