Ken I have been no ctc for 7 months and wondering same thing.I have put a thread on to see if I can get some views on the no ctc/dim/dark.Sorry for jumping in the middle of a thread!!
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1978659&page=1

ME 44
H 45
D 14
D 20
M 22 YEARS
TOGETHER 28YEARS
Bomb Drop 14th July 09
Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09)
MLC 3years

Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith