W officially in R w/ OM-

[Truegritter]

I e-mailed W asking her to contemplate her motivations and if her timing was at all based on:
failed R w/ OM
living w/ MIL
depression
and learning I am ready to walk

She was belligerent in her response.

Why are you trying to reason with a crazy person? Whatever it is she is going through you won't be able to understand it or reason it out or anything...ANYTHING. She doesn't know why she is doing it. She is in pain and just running. You cannot stop this or do anything to help other than to help yourself. LET GO!

I do have loving feelings for W, but I only saw pain in her eyes...I cannot save her-

THIS is true

I feel good, I am glad the "fall" was so short and not spread out over weeks or months...she is still a WAS through and through- she just needed to know I was still around, and I gave that to her.

Why are you divorcing her? IMHO you have missed an opportunity here my friend I am hearing damaged goods, WAS. Drugs and you're glad the "fall" was short?

I am not talking about saving your M I'm talking about saving you. This is all stuff she did to YOU not what you have dealt with and decided for YOURSELF. So now you have to divorce her.

this "fall" will not be short my friend if you don't commit to making a better YOU. Divorce her if it's your choice not because she is damaged goods-do you think she wants to be damaged goods? She doesn't know what else to do.

If you had completed this process you would not be saying this about your W.