Hi Ken,

I haven't noticed any effect on my H from being dim. My sitch is a bit unusual though, in that H is participating in the dim-ness so it's mutual. I think he is pretty set on D and doesn't really have mixed feelings about it...that he's demonstrating in any way at least. The dim is helping me though. I'm gradually detaching and seeing my life as separate from his.

Good luck with your sitch!


me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4
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