Saving a relationship that maybe cannot be saved

[knightinneed]

Ok i have some stuff to add to this. I have been talking with W's mom regarding all the court stuff and well she seems to think that W wants to let child stay in foster care.

W's mom was trying to contact W's Brother to see if they would be guardian and she has heard nothing. Also, she said my Wife has not contacted her back again regarding having either her Brothers family be a guardian or My Sister.

W's mom believes that if I move forward with having DD stay with my sister that would be against W's wishes.

I am torn and in the dark on this, because if I move forward with having Lawyer file motion in court for emergency hearing to get DD with my sister, it could cause more damage to my W.

I hate the idea of DD being in foster care, but W may have something going with her lawyer which i dont think she does.

My sister thinks I need to go for custody of the child after all this over if I am handed D papers.


It really blows not being able to communicate with W for sake of the child, her feeling im totally responsible for this mess, and not knowing what really is the right move long term.

My gut saids get DD out of foster care anyway possible, but if its against W's wishes who is prob not in a good frame of mind it could hurt any reconciliation attempt.

I have to make a decision tonight about this, I am going to talk to my Family, and hope W's mom has some news about what W may want or if W's brother will be guardian.

I figured if W's brother is guardian it would not seem like I am trying to do something against her wishes, but really its about DD.

I do begin IC tomorrow, and well im looking forward to it because i need to make some major changes in my life.

PLease help if you any advice for me as I feel i have one of the worst sitches possible here. I really need some advice.