6 MONTHS IN AND FEELING A WOBBLE........

[lalxx]

Thank you Passenger - out situations are similiar aren't they??

Interesting correspondance between us today which i'd appreciate anyone'sthoughts on.

My husband collected the children this morning and took them to school - he came home made them their breakfast - this is something he has not done in at least 2 months.

I got a new tyre on my car it is being paid out of the joint account so I texted my husband to let him know that my car was safe again and that I'd paid £150 from the joint account. He texted back:-
'That's great! Travel safely please Paula'

I took the chidlren to a party tonight straight from school. I texted him to let him know that we would be home in 20 mins so taht he could call them. I got the text back:-
"Ok, it's Dads wedding anniversary today, 25 years"

I replied:-
"Gosh, I didn't know. Do you want to talk?"

He replied:-
"No I'm fine sent flowers from all of us"

I replied:-
"Thank you that was very kind of you. As long as you are ok Paul"

10 minutes later I got:-
"26 years last week that Mum dies. I'm ok, remember I am a bastard don't forget and not worth any pity!"

His Mum's death was so very badly handled by his family - he was 15 and his sister was 12 - his Dad sent his sister on a 2wek French exchange trip without telling her that her Mum had died and when she came back her Mum was buried. My husband slept with his Dad for a year as he was convinced his dad was going to take his own life. His dad met his 2nd wife in Yugoslavia on a family holiday a few months after his first wife's death and he married a Czech lady who didn't speak any English - my husband had to clear his Mum's clothes from the wardrobe the day before the new wife arrived in the UK. My husband and his sister have been virtually ignored by his Dad ever since.

So I couldn't leave this text unanswered so I replied:-
"I do not think you are a bastard a all Paul. Never have. I went to Chrch and said a prayer for your Mum last Tuesday, I didn't know the exact date, I am sorry. I don't pity yu either. I just feel so very sad sometimes. You might not want to hear this but I love you. Here if you need me Paul"

He hasn't called the children tonight.

So have I really set the cat amongst the pidgeons with my communication do you think?

lalxx