Matilda, I'd like to at least have a discussion about this. Things are pretty emotional right now. It's odd to me the level of connection she wants to maintain, though I'm in the guest room this week again.
I was hoping to advocate for marital therapy, but I now wonder about the timing of it. I think I need to face her concerns, and allow her to vent.
It seems to me that if she talks to me, I should participate and hear her concerns. If she wants to connect, I should consider if it can be a positive experience. I don't see how going "on-strike" with the Hustle Formation would help. It would take away my and her recreation, and a buffer between the problems.
If she resumes sleeping elsewhere or violate boundaries, than I respond again in some fashion. I believe my spoken words have had an effect on her. She does listen to what I say. I just have to speak-up.
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"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
