Thanks Mr.B (sweetie), I don't get to spend as much time on the board/computer as I once did b/c it is too physically hard on my neck, spine, etc., but maybe it will ease up sometime down the road. I appreciate you thinking about me. I try to keep track of your stitch.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Hi Sandi, I fairly new to the forum, but have read The Divorce Remedy about 5 years ago. Is their anyway that you could look at my sitch and give me some insight of what I may be facing with my WAW?
Hi Sandi, I fairly new to the forum, but have read The Divorce Remedy about 5 years ago. Is their anyway that you could look at my sitch and give me some insight of what I may be facing with my WAW?
Sandi - been a while since I've heard from you. Don't need anything, just wanted to pass along that my stitch took a couple of dramatic turns in the last week...first one the roller coaster heading downhill fast followed by a major uphill turn.
I'm still cautious...this might not last. But guilt from Mothers Day + me treating her like an "acquaintance" for 2 days after finally letting go...has made her say she has to try before whe quits the M. More than words...she acted first. The next day when I told her how much she surprised me is when she told me that she is going to try before she quits and gave me the reasons.
You've been a cheerleader as well as 2x4 yeilding advisor...thank you.
Not out of the woods yet, but we have no kidding trying to work on M to include W brining up going to MC. That is next on my agenda, find out how to find a good MC and then go find one. GW
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
hi sandi...been seeing you on the boards lately and you seem to have a great perspective. i would love to get your insight into my sitch if you so incline.
also, wanted coach to comment as well but not sure if he got my note on one of his threads...
I see that you are still around the boards offering your great advice to those in need!!! I hope you'll stop by here and see my note. I've just had you on my mind lately, and I thought maybe that was God's way of saying I should stop in and tell you what's going on in my life, and ask you what's going on in yours????
I hope that your family is doing well. How's your daughter? How are you?
I'm doing fabulously!!! The 1-year anniversary of my divorce was June 12...it came and went and I didn't give it a whole lot of thought! The kids and I spent the day at the beach with friends we made in our divorce recovery class. It was a fantastic day!
My life in general is fantastic!!!! I can't begin to tell you about all the blessings that God has sent my way over the last two years when the mess started, but I'll share a few highlights...because I wouldn't be me if I didn't give some details of my life, now would I?
I'm finally getting motivated at work again. I have some exciting projects on the horizon, and I think I'm going to start enjoying my work again!
The boys are doing very well...my little man starts kindergarten in 3 weeks. They grow so fast! But, they are going to be fine. Over the 4th of July on our road trip to my family's, he told me (out of the blue), that he thought my brother was "doing the right thing by staying with the mom." My older one had a friend in the car with us and said, "That's right, but now's not the time to discuss that." In his own 5-year old language, he was letting me know that he understands that a man should stay married to the mother of his children! I was proud of that.
The ex is engaged to OW. She did send me a notecard right before they became engaged. It said, "Amy, I just wanted you to know that I think about how much I hurt you daily, and I am truly sorry!" It took me about a month to respond, and when I did respond, God and I (cause He actually wrote the words, I just held the pen), told her that I'd forgive them both because God wanted me to. But, that I would not condone her past or even current behavior (living with a man she's not married to in front of my boys). I told her that she'd be held accountable if any of her actions caused my boys to stumble, but I also admitted mistakes I had made in my spiritual walk and even told her that I loved my ex and wanted happiness for him. It was actually a very nice response...not nearly as judgemental as the first draft! God is good!
I taught my first ever Sunday school lesson about 3 weeks ago. The title..."Growing Through Adversity!" I think it went well, and several of the folks in the class thanked me afterward for being so open about some of the events in my life.
And, I'm dating...casually! Not one special guy yet...but, three pretty cool guys at the moment! I'm having fun. And, I'm learning so much about me and other people and the kind of person I'd like to share my life with! It's been such a great experience so far...all of the men I've met have said and done just the right things to make me feel special and attractive and wanted. Things my ex took away from me. I'm so glad I waited to date until I had my life back together. I'm gonna be an awesome catch for some lucky man some day!!!! But, I'm in no hurry!
So, not only did I survive, I'm thriving...just as you predicted I would. Sandi, I can't begin to thank you for all the kind and encouraging words you typed to me all hours of the day and night during those months following my crisis! You had such a big role in helping me to heal. I talk about this place often...and when I do, I always tell about you! I'm a much stronger and better woman after having survived the ordeal, and God and I are much closer than we were before! He's got good things in store for me...and likely some work He wants me to do too! And, I'm ready!!!! I sort of understand how draining it can be...physically and emotionally to offer your support to folks here. So, I just wanted you to know, that for me, all the "draining" on your part paid off big time! I wouldn't be nearly as far along on my road to a better future, without your love and support!
I'll send some prayers up for you and your family.
Much, much love! Amy M.
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
My dearest Amy, I hardly know how to respond to such a beautiful post. Just as I was about to think I should leave the board b/c I don't seem to have as much "steam" as I used to have..... ......you come along and give me such encouragement!
I can't begin to tell you how happy I am at all the good things I'm hearing about your life. However, I am not one bit surprised. You've always had the "right stuff"! The fact that you are allowing God to do everything is such an assurance that all will be good. That's not to say you'll never face difficult times again...but all things work together for good for those who love God and are called to His purpose. Sounds like that fits you pretty good!
I still can see the boys (in my own mind's eye)and it's just wonderful how they are growing. They truly are such a blessing to you, aren't they?
I can't remember if I told you my D got M again. She has a good person who truly loves her and he is so good "for" her. She continues to face health problems but she is happy in her M and that is about the best medicine she could have.
My H and I are doing very well in our R. He really "listens" when I say something now....lol. The greatest gift he could give me was his forgiveness and his trust again....and he did. I am very blessed.
I could talk for hours but I'll just say once again how happy you've made me for taking the time to come by. I really mean that. I'm so very pleased to hear everything. BTW, I'm proud of you for replying the way you did to OW. That showed so much grace! You are right....only God can do that.
Three guys on the string at once, huh? That's my girl! Please keep me up to date from time to time.
I love you sweetie.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
......you come along and give me such encouragement!