Holy Crap! Didn't expect THIS!

[Trixi]

Feeling more nervous. Yesterday I went over there and he was grumpy (he's had an ongoing headache). Around 9pm, he said he was going to bed, so I went to leave and noticed the COBRA notice on the counter. So I asked if I could open it and he said sure. OMFG! It will be nearly $1800/month! So, if I thought he was grumpy before- well, this set him over the top. He got REALLY mad; and mad at me for opening the envelope when he was tired and had a headache. (essentially.) I said something about how the boat needed to be sold ASAP ($500/mo payment). We were both shocked at the price and so I was just sort of looking at him with wide eyes (like wtf are we going to do?) and he says "What!?!? are you going to keep rubbing it in my face?!" I responded with "what *exactly* am I 'rubbing in your face'?" No answer. He was stomping around the kitchen saying "I can't deal with this. I feel like sh!t; I'm tired; my head hurts!" I finally just said "We are NOT going to turn on each other now. THIS is when we need to actually be a team. Get some rest- we'll figure it out."

Ugh. ugh ugh ugh. I don't like that he thinks I am "rubbing it in his face" (whatever that really means.) I don't know- it makes me feel like he assumes the worst of me or something. I am afraid this is going to spiral out of control.