Hadn't seen WAW all week since we got back from vacation until today when she came over for the usual Sunday dinner with kids. She was very kissy and huggy. I reciprocated but did not initiate.
I think at some point in the near future, it's going to be time to have a talk. I am almost ready for her to come home and would love to know if she is almost ready to do so.
No.
That would be pursuing.
She left.
She will know when its time to come home for her, that is if she wants to come home.
But you raise an interesting point. Do you continue doing this routine you have in place and if so how long do you do it?
The question is how long do you want to do it?
When it gets to the point where you are tired of this routine, you will tell her that since she has made the decision to move out and live away from you and hasn't shown that she wants to come back and hasn't asked to come back, it's time to legally separate and divorce and time for you to move on with you life whatever that includes.
When it gets to the point where you are tired of this routine, you will tell her that since she has made the decision to move out and live away from you and hasn't shown that she wants to come back and hasn't asked to come back, it's time to legally separate and divorce and time for you to move on with you life whatever that includes.
Lead. Lead your life, lead your marriage and lead your family. Let your wife off the hook from making a choice. You decide for yourself and take action. Call her hand - she's either in or out. She wants you to lead. If she has to choose guess what it will be?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Lead. Lead your life, lead your marriage and lead your family. Let your wife off the hook from making a choice. You decide for yourself and take action. Call her hand - she's either in or out. She wants you to lead. If she has to choose guess what it will be?
Coach, could you go into more detail about this?
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Saturday after work I called WAW to see if I could pick up some wings on my home (She's the GM at a restaurant). She says yes, so I go there and have a beer at the bar while waiting, talk to her for a minute or two (she was busy) get my wings and go home.
That night at 11:00 I am in bed just about to fall asleep when she comes in the bedroom. She takes off all her clothes and gets in next to me. "I was too busy to see you before, so thought I would come say hi". We talked and cuddled for about half an hour, then she said she was very tired, after working a 14 hour day, got dressed and went home to her apartment. She said she got naked since I hate when she smells "like restaurant".
The next day she came over for usual Sunday dinner with kids and there was virtually no mention of the night before.
yeah I have a thought, she wanted to have sex except you didn't close the deal and just "cuddled" so she got bored and then left, she probably would have had sex and slept over.
Don't be afraid to initiate sex, in fact you should initiate sex, if you get rejected and are told "NO", that's ok and respect her when she tells you NO, but you had your wife come home after a long day of work unexpectedly and take off all her clothes and climb into bed with you to be near you.
yeah I have a thought, she wanted to have sex except you didn't close the deal and just "cuddled" so she got bored and then left, she probably would have had sex and slept over.
Don't be afraid to initiate sex, in fact you should initiate sex, if you get rejected and are told "NO", that's ok and respect her when she tells you NO, but you had your wife come home after a long day of work unexpectedly and take off all her clothes and climb into bed with you to be near you.
Yep. this ^
There's a running gag that I started on the forum that any man who uses the word "cuddle" in their posts, probably won't successfully DB their marriage, and any man who actually uses it with his WIFE, definitely won't.
It was meant more as an observation than a joke, but I think there's a lot of truth in it.
She said she got naked since I hate when she smells "like restaurant".
Next time you see her tell her she smells "like restaurant." Then handle it.
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There's a running gag that I started on the forum that any man who uses the word "cuddle" in their posts, probably won't successfully DB their marriage, and any man who actually uses it with his WIFE, definitely won't.
Foot rubbers and cuddlers!!! AAAUUGGGHHHHH!!!
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
yeah I have a thought, she wanted to have sex except you didn't close the deal and just "cuddled" so she got bored and then left, she probably would have had sex and slept over.
Don't be afraid to initiate sex, in fact you should initiate sex, if you get rejected and are told "NO", that's ok and respect her when she tells you NO, but you had your wife come home after a long day of work unexpectedly and take off all her clothes and climb into bed with you to be near you.
I suppose I should have mentioned that there was a little foreplay, but since she was very tired, she said something like "I'm just too tired".
A couple days earlier, she met me at work to get her car looked at (I am Sales Manager at a dealership) and then went with me to pick out new glasses. We went for lunch after and while we were there, she said something like "I bought me...well us...something" "Do you want to know what it is"? I said no, I will wait until you invite me over to find out.
Obviously she was referring to some kind of sex toy or something, and I was of course interested - but I felt like playing the game.
yeah I have a thought, she wanted to have sex except you didn't close the deal and just "cuddled" so she got bored and then left, she probably would have had sex and slept over.
Don't be afraid to initiate sex, in fact you should initiate sex, if you get rejected and are told "NO", that's ok and respect her when she tells you NO, but you had your wife come home after a long day of work unexpectedly and take off all her clothes and climb into bed with you to be near you.
I suppose I should have mentioned that there was a little foreplay, but since she was very tired, she said something like "I'm just too tired".
That was a test.
WOMEN TEST MEN.
I think she wanted you to press on, and persist, and take her.
I could be wrong; at least about everything other than the bold part.
