MLCer or addicted infidel?

[WhatNow]

Thanks a new 2moro.
I am interested in reading how you handled your year of his letting go.

I have reading, reading, reading. Lots of good info. How did it get by me for so long?

I guess I had to get the non-pursual under control. The only way for me to do that was to go dark.

Not so dark last weekend.
DD16 asked H to drive her to prom in his racecar. Cool. That meant I had to follow and leave a car for them to get home in. They planned a dinner beforehand, so H and I went to a nearby bar for drinks and snacks to wait.

Convo was kinda awkward. He chatted on about the economy, how it has ruined our business, how we have 1/4 the income, and on and on. I nodded along. Ate my chicken nuggets. Drank my wine. Listened to his whine. During a lull, I mentioned how sad he looked, like a lost soul. I also noticed he wasn't wearing his ring and later sent a text saying I noticed. He also asked me why I don't believe that he misses me. I said I don't understand it and don't know why he would.

Yesterday, he sent me an email saying it was hard for him to take off but did after I had asked him why he was still wearing it awhile back. (?) He also said he thought a lot about my lost soul comment, and said I had summed him up accurately. I replied how saddened I was for him, and that I had faith he could get through this.

2 hours later, I get an em blasting me for "telling someone" about Sat nite and this someone told OW all about it. He had intended to tell her but hadn't had a chance yet. (2 days later)
He said they have no secrets. I wonder if he has told her that he tells me how much he misses me? loves me? That he refuses to move all his stuff out and insists he doesn't want D?

Anyway, This ticked me off. He is accusing me of interfering in his A, and I KNOW, no one knew about Sat. So, unless she had us followed, she was just fishing. He said The person he suspected of being "the pipeline" has been creating all kinds of issues. I told him, that I had not seen that person in a year! He was surprised. Trouble in paradise! I think he finally believed me. Thanks OW! I couldn't have interfered better! I plan to stay out of the drama but am all paranoid now that I might be followed or she hacked my email. I did plant a seed that his email might be hacked. I did send a text this am saying hope today was a better day for him. He smiley'd back.

I really want to "handle" situations like this to my advantage but it is less riskier to sit back. I want to be the "rock" and the "safe place" to be...right?

I will go read some more........