No, it's not petty! Again ... how would she feel if you came and rummaged through your daughter's bedroom in her house, looking for something unimportant such as a necklace? Would you call her petty if she complained? And then, on top of that, sat there with MIL playing with the kids, completing projects she had wanted to do with them? Who knows if she kept her search only in that bedroom and didn't look around yours, wondering if she will see evidence of another woman?
Yeah, that occurred to me as well. Did she look around elsewhere in the house too? Of course the question is, why would she look for evidence of another woman? Does she care?
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I hate to say this, but you sound a little afraid of her reaction. Perhaps you should leave it be, but don't allow her to make you feel you can't set your boundaries and stand by them.
I'm just continually amazed at her gall, and it seems ridiculous that I need to point this stuff out to her. If I bring it up she'll say something like "What was I supposed to do? D5 asked me to do her sock puppet with her. Should I have said no?" How about "Sweetie, that's something Daddy bought for you. Why don't you save it to do with him?"
Regarding her being in my house, I have to be careful there. I don't want to put my MIL in the middle. She obviously invited W into the house, so I don't want her to feel like she betrayed me. She has been so good to me. Anything I say to W about it will immediately be relayed to MIL.
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You are doing so awesome with GAL, distancing yourself emotionally, etc. so if it will affect that in any way, then don't bring it up unless it becomes a habit.
Thanks. I think so too. Along the lines of my prior post, if I do bring it up, maybe it should be in the context of trying to get her to open up about everything, and not as a challenge to her crossing a boundary. Ask her why she wants to come into my house and do an art project I bought for the kids? Seems so odd, along with other things she's doing.
