My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

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I thought I had better add this: just because you give your H the opportunity to explain himself when he brings up R stuff, don't expect it to happen.

Often, the exact opposite can happen: something even more confusing can be said, or even worse... it is possible that your spouse may use that as an opportunity to lash out.

If it is something confusing, just try to listen. If your H. lashes out and your feelings are hurt, then don't get angry (you are talking to a confused person). It's ok to say things like "I am sorry you feel that way, and it hurts my feelings when you say you never loved me" and such. It's better than getting angry because your feelings are hurt.