I'm thinking it's time for me to make a change. The path my W and I are on is leading to nothing but ugliness and misery for me, her, and most of all, our kids.
Given how she's been acting, maybe I should throw her a bone and ask her if she really wants this legal nightmare we're about to enter, or is something else going on. If I drop my guard and reach out, she will probably be unable to resist the opportunity to "make me suffer" a little, as in make me work before she yields, but if I just see that as the way she is I can handle it. She is not happy. I think I've proved to her that I don't need her, and that I will stand up to her and not back down.
She is so manipulative though, by her nature. Have I learned enough, detached enough, and healed enough to manage her manipulative ways? That's what I ponder. Can I withstand the potential for reattachment if I open back up? Are these little stunts she's been pulling just tests to see if she can hook me back in to control me, or her attempts to open a dialog? I have been VERY tough for the last couple months. Haven't given her an inch. If I stay on this path, and if she remains on her path, even if she eventually breaks, I might hate her so much by then that I'd be unable to find any way back.
Do I take a chance? If I don't even try, or if I do and fail, either way I'm going to have to go on the legal offensive now, so what do I have to lose?
