A problem is we have a commitment to the Hustle Team and this studio. I don't want to break this commitment, and drop out so late in the process.
You are afraid of upsetting the apple cart and afraid to disappoint other people.
I will change my approach, but will probably fall short of the degree of boundary making needed. I'm new at this, so will probably fall short of what's needed at first.
You are already assuming you can't enforce proper boundaries. Are you afraid of pushing her away despite saying otherwise?
I'm afraid to stop being a companion and experience the level of unbalance and turbulence it would cause. I'm like the boy trying to keep his finger in the dike. The odd thing is I'm not afraid of D, or being single, and think my life would be enriched and more peaceful without her. I'm not afraid of her anymore, but am afraid of the level of unpleasantness if would create if I took strong measures.
Coming from someone who knows and has done the same, it seems you are aproaching all of this with a high level of fear/anxiety about how real change will disrupt your percieved handle on things in your life. That fear seems to be keeping you from taking the actions that, counterintuitive to you or not, would most likely give you the best shot at turning this around...CL
