affair busters, Mystik needs input!

[Abbey]

Yes you will. You've already been down part of this road then, too. Basic human nature... wants what they can't have and they're normally creatures of habit. Your H proved it once already.

Step back... and breathe, this is not going to resolve itself in the next few days. You have *time* to work this out for yourself. *hugs* I remember my eyes felt like they were going to pop out, I was so upset. My body felt like it was floating without me having much say what it did and where it went. I was numb and being electrocuted all at the same time. I *know* how desperate this all feels right now. How *final* it all feels. That's actually your body saying: ENOUGH!... this is making me sick!

Still the fact is: NOOOOOW, this boy needs you more than ever. You're his life preserver. He's already shown when he's not ready... he'll yoyo... your mission now is to keep him at arms length. For YOUR own good, for his own good. This is a bump in the road. A big one mind you,... but you're not done yet. From what you've written here, I don't think this is a done deal yet. You did exactly like I did for the first half of the process back. I showed him the life preserver, gave him a taste of it. You showed him he's wanted. You showed him you're ready when he is. He's taken the bait... and he's got "those" good fuzzies to think back to when he starts to regret being with the OW. And he will. The guy was saying he wanted to leave her. You know that's not going to work out right... she's in quite the pickle... and she's going to beg and plead and ultimately as we know... it'll push him away in the process. Right?

Cutting down to the bare truth... you KNOW in your hearts of hearts, if he stays with her, it won't last. You willing to play it out to there? Wanna bail somewhere along the way? That's going to be entirely up to you. My choice was to play this out right to the last drop. I became VERY determined to win. And Yeah, I know... telling you to let go and being determined to win in the same breath sounds hypocritical. It's not. Your H at some point... is going to come back looking for his life preserver. Be ready for it. Be ready to say: Ok...this time MY rules! IT's not something you'll grab in one big bite,... every minute of every day until that time... gives you the chance to get stronger.

Abbey