Thank you Abbey, for your words of advice and wisdom. I have always been his floatation device, almost from the first day we met. The logical side of me knows I need to stop being that safety net for him. But the emotional side doesn't know how to let go and stop being there for him, he is my first and only love.
When I've described that "arms length" time I imposed on my H,... I say it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Every emotion told me... draw him closer. Logically though, doing so would have been saying: go ahead, USE me.
No matter what happens... the next stage of your life has just started. You have the time now to grab control of how your H treats you. Yes, God's ultimate plan for you is His design, however, it's safe to say that you have a duty to your son and YOURSELF to get respect and to be treated properly.
This is a process,.... and frankly I'll say it again.. I still think you're still in the game. HOW you play it... (both for your own sanity)... and how it has potential to outcome,... that's where I advise you to do some very deep soul searching. You now have to let go, because it may not end up with you reconciling... HOWEVER!- When mine dumped me for that week. I let go. I gave up. Funny... just when I stopped holding on... he hit the rocks... and oddly ... began working very hard to "get back in".
Abbey
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T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
