Yes my h has not neglected me financially in any way. He has even pointed this out to me. We share bank accounts just like always and it doesn't seem to be an issue. Over the last 4-5 years I have been the one taking care of all our finances. He has complained in the past that I have all the "control" yet he makes no effort to be involved, yet he complained. This is something I wish we could do together. I am perfectly capable of doing it but would like some help. Back in dec when I brought it up he got mad and yelled "Nicole what part about me wanting a divorce don't you get"? So that didn't go so well at all.
If my h does return home, the finances would definately be a 180 for me/us to work together on so that he can feel in control some. We'll see. I just don't think at this point it is going to help at all. I think it will stress him out more than anything at this point.
Yes, there is work to be done at our house also....but he hasn't shown any initiatve to come over and help. I refuse to do yard work...I'll help but I will not be left to do it all. That is not right. Besides it might make the h feel needed more.....
How do you make a WAS feel needed? My h has made comments in the past that I don't need him for anything....so how do you make him feel needed (&loved) without being pursuing?
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present
