I wrote a long reply to your previous post but you deleted it which made mine invalid. But Fig is right - stop worrying so much about it all. My day is not shot if you say something I don't like.
But YOU have to stop being a VICTIM! Myself and others here have tried to give you are best advice. Rarely am I criticized for doing so. I understand it all very well - as do the others as we have ALL been shattered by what our spouses did. But our lives did not end there.
I am a professional as well. I did my best in a bad situation. I ended up having to pay my ex off. Yes - I made more money than him. And now, due to circumstances beyond my control - I had a forced retirement before I was ready so I am not working either. But I do what I have to do as I'm still schooling kids and tuition is NOT CHEAP! And I have to provide to those dependent kids.
You pick yourself up, you dust yourself off you do whatever you have to do. For today. And worry about tommorrow, tommorrow.
The sooner you stop being stuck in the mud - the sooner you start to feel better.
Now - stop the blame game. These are good people here and sometimes what we need to get ourselves unstuck is a good kick in the pants.
