Concerning laundry, I no longer do my husband's on a fulltime basis. He learned how to wash, dry and put away his own clothes long ago.
Sometimes he does mine and his; sometimes I do mine and his..we pitch in where ever it's needed with housework, etc, as we both work and work hard.
It was part of the changes that came about within us both. The fact is, NONE of us are children, and acts of service, while it's being nice, should NOT be left on ONE person to do, or taken for granted. I learned to leave things alone, and so what if a load of laundry got messed up once in awhile...it doesn't happen that often, and I'm even capable of making a mess myself....and so if my husband makes a mess, he fixes that mess...and I actually laugh about it...and go on..it is not worth all that.
I don't even wash for son either; he's learned to cook, clean, do laundry, be totally independent.
Son has bought a house for himself now(he's 23), going through the steps to get ready to move out on his own....I'm dealing with that at this point. He didn't have to have ANY help with the loan; has done this all himself. I raised him this way...the complete opposite of how I was raised. I realized early on that to not raise son to be independent was to cheat him out of the opportunity to learn to take care of himself...so I have spent all these years teaching him to be independent.
Mila, the tiredness within your husband is also very normal, and he will sleep alot, and this, too, shall pass....his body is trying to regain its strength as so very much has been taken out of him because of the changes he's experiencing. You are doing well, going strong, and you have a very strong intuition that will guide you through this.
You know not to push him at this time, just watch him, be there when he needs you, and I pray that he'll get through, make some very sound decisions, and continue to make his way back to you.
I will not be posting very much at all for the next three weeks or so, as things will get very busy for me....there are so many changes going on within our household that I need to concentrate on those at this time.
I may read, but will not post unless I feel I need to.
Have a great day, remember; one day at a time, one step at a time.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
