I made my WH expose to his family-I said that I wanted him to tell them or I would. He did...tried to romanticize that he "couldn't help falling in love" with OW and "never wanted to hurt me" and said I "did nothing wrong." (I found this out from his SIL.
The OW's mom supports her (barf!) and she is divorced.
About work- just found out that my SIL's neighbor works in the same place...amd visiting my SIL today. She thinks her neighbor knows nothing because she is the kind of person to say things out right and hasn't said anything to SIL. Hmmm...wonder what would happen if she found out?
Now my silver lining is if he ends the A, then I feel like there is a better chance of R because he has been able to live out his fantasy with this long term A.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
