BTW, staying calm does not mean acting in a passive manner. Very strong men do not over-react, but neither do they behave in a passive way.
Some women hate passiveness in their H's so much that they will see just how far they can push him until he stands up to her and starts acting more of a "take charge" man.
I really think some men have being a nice guy mixed up with being passive. I know some of us use the term "nice guy" b/c a passive man usually acts nice to keep the peace. But, there is a difference and it may do you well to study about passiveness on the Internet.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
