Ayayaye BBJ.....I have to agree with Mike and K. You are a glutten for punishment.
On the "announcement" to the kids, I was as stressed about it as you seem to be. However, try to remember one thing. Your kids will react to how their parents react. If they see you tolerant, happy and able to have a "friendly" relationship with their dad (and vice versa of course), they will be fine. The divorce stigma does not exist any longer. They will be no different than their classmates.
