C-Bart,

Thanks for letting me see I was trying to control the A again.. I think when I get overwhelmed or stressed I do tend to try and control everything and anything and not doing so is new to me... I have to become more aware of that..

There are a few reasons why I'm trying so hard to keep the house I have:

~ my mom lives with me.. and she has significant mobility issues.. I went through viewing 13 homes to find this one that she could manage the stairs etc... Anything that I can afford alone somewhere else (either renting or such) would have stairs she can't manage..

~ my son (has Autism) and his current school have been working with his High School (he graduates primary this year) to transition him to the new school re: curriculum, equipment transfer, his comfort in uniform and going there, etc. To move would risk him not going to that school and having to start all over again with another High School (and he is really excited about going there with all the friends he developed at primary)

~ a move so soon after separation would be extremely confusing (and terrifying for D3) as the kids have already been exhibiting separation anxiety-type behaviours and trying to cling and emphasize the constants in their life right now. (D3 keeps mentioning "I love my home, I love my bed" type things) I have woken up on numerous mornings with both kids cuddling up to me in bed in the morning...they never did that when H was here...

I'm not worried about not having a roof over our heads.. that will be there no matter what.. I'm trying to work out the least painful/stressful/traumatic solution for all of us.. And the responsibility is terrifying to me...


~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~

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