My church has a business meeting tonight and I think they're going to ask me to be an elder again, but I was thinking about saying in front of everybody something like, "It's really hard to focus when [OM] is having an affair with my wife." Is that a bad idea?

My wife is trying to be kind to me in the house, but I haven't touched her in over a week. She cooked a nice meal for me yesterday and has been doing a lot of cleaning. Should I confront her again about whether or not she is talking to the OM? If she is, should I try to persuade her to leave?

My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.