robx,

I'm seeing what OfficerInNeed is doing with the:

1. Anger management
2. Church
3. Counselling
4. Controlling emotions and actions with respect to W

He's figuring even if his wife bows out of the marriage, he will be a better and more complete man. Its what he's comfortable doing, and the efforts won't be wasted because they can be used for another situation if this one doesn't work out.