Pandora..my close friend once said to me that there is no detour, no left turn or right turn, you must continue driving straight through.

Having been through this, as others here have, the best we can do is support you and let you know that we care and understand.

Try to stop talking with him about this. You cannot reason with him. You cannot change his mind. You cannot rationalize your marriage back into his acceptance and you cannot religiously legislate him back into the marriage. There are two reasons to stop doing this:
  • to stop applying pressure to him
  • to ease your pain. The more you talk, the more you hear what you don't want to hear, the more you self-inflict pain. You are only going to hear the same thing...again and again.


The quickest way to ease the pain is to detach and grieve. Keep as busy as you can. Again, I would recommend taking a look at Grey's book. It helps. Really.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;