Saving a relationship that maybe cannot be saved

[knightinneed]

Thanks for checking up. I'm ok and now have a good plan. CPS advised that I give them a alternative guardian until our court date.

W actually advised there was no alternate per CPS and that was the last emergency court date that I could not make because there was no notice for me. They called my house instead of work, so i didnt find out till later.

I have 2 options, W's brothers family, or my sister. I will find out today who to present as an option.

CPS did say after IC and parenting class, everything should be ok as long as there are no more incidents, which there will not be.

I feel better about things now, but I am worried about W who is very scared, depressed, and staying with her boss. My hope is that after IC, parenting class and our next court date she may cool off enough to discuss moving forward.

I still love her very much, i know she needs some help, as I do and want to be a family again. I think I am at a point where DB is going to start going into effect. The thing is how i do get someone who blames me for everything to forgive me.

One of the last things she said was that our M was over the moment she was arrested. She got herself arrested by breaking the contact order, by being hysterical around police and demanding she have my car even though i need it for work.

I dont know how long it will be before she calms down, but i am damn worried about my family.

It is possible she prefers that child is in foster care for now, maybe because her mind is clouded and she doesnt want my family to watch her which is BS.

I just want to do whats best for my daughter, and also for my relationship. For her to say no alternative, was likely a result of her being so freaked out during court, that she was saying something like no one should have my daughter but me.

Well, anyway I am hanging in there and will update when i learn more.