Your wife is going to do some serious "feeling out" of you when she comes home. She wants to know:

- what you're THINKING

- what (if anything) you've decided to DO about things

- especially if you're talking to an atty

- if her old systems of CONTROL over you (being nice, being mean, sex, etc. -- whatever) will continue to work for you

When a wayward senses they have lost "hand" (ref.: Seinfeld, lol), they will do whatever it takes to get it back.

Seinfeld -- "Hand"

Puppy