Don't let others talk bad about H, if that's what you want. Just tell them every M has trouble and unfortunely H has a different way of doing thindgs.
As for your confusion, and I'm going to be truthful here, it doesn't get any better in 8 months time either. I am still on the fence. I have good feelings about a wonderful M and then I have bad thoughts about this will never work out. You will cycle throught these emotions weekly or even daily.
If there is an event where H and you will have interaction don't have any expectations about it. That way you won't have any disappointments. I'll look for sandi's list later today. hang in there, the journey of a thousand miles starts with 1 step.
Thank you so much. I am so sorry that things are not better for you after eight months. I don't know what to expect. I'm not sure I even know what I want.
I need to find your thread & mark it or something. Can you do that here? Is your W still on the fence as well? How do you deal with the constant swing of emotions? Does it ever slow down?
I hope you are having a good day today. It's beautiful here.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
