Quote: Last night my H brought kids back and then helped S5 clean up his room. (This is a new side of him and I really appreciate it and tell him so) I had the wrapping paper box stashed under his bed as it is the only one it fits under heightwise.
Well, they took it out a week ago to find something and didn't put it back. So last night H told S to put it in our bedroom. I told him why it was under S5's bed and he said he thought that maybe it was just in there because of the holidays. Then he put it back but I could tell the whole episode bothered him.
This is indicative of one of our issues. He comes in and looks around and makes judgements about something without asking about it. Last night resolved just fine I think, but I wasn't able to follow up to explain how this type of episode makes me feel.
We have twin Hs! It is hard to describe, but it is a feeling of judgement I get. I don't know if I can put it in words to explain it to him, but the look I get tells me that he is making some type of judgement and it isn't a good one! I don't know how to counter this. With humor? Does explaining why it is done help at all? I don't think I have experimented with different ways to combat this so I feel good about it.
So, you aren't alone! It is a science experiment, what can we do to stop feeling how we do when they do the things they will probably always do?
