Hey CL, I was attracted here when I saw my old friend Lan post. I do not have much time this morning to go to far back in history. What I did read stunned me and unfortunatelly took me back a couple of years. We all put up with "stuff". Some worse than others. I have learned not to judge folks and always try to put myself in their shoes. You see i knew my XW was cheating, Not in OUR house but what does it matter? At the end of the day it is only geography. What does matter a great deal is how you respond. Not only for yourself but the marriage or relationship. For yourself, you should have kicked her and him out of the house (robe and pants on the floor AND moaning)... Strangely enough this may have helped your marriage as well. When a person is willing to so blatantly disrespect you, no amount of talk or e-mails will get to them....she is in lala land and you sir need to make a major move. There you go...I do not want to go into my history because it really does not matter. Let me just say that I know how you feel ..... get out of there or Kick her out.
