Why not let her feel/know the consequences of her actions.
It's odd.. when you call her on her behavior, she recoils like a sea anemone. Yet if you're the least bit accommodating, she whacks with you with a big ole jellyfish, stinging tentacles included.
And as painful as it is.. you cannot protect your children from her abusive behavior. But you can be and are the loving father who is the rock, the shelter, the nurturing soul who will always be there for them... unless of course you're in Lebanon.