thx fm = I am feeling more peace slowly slowly slowly, less drama, more time to focus on me.
And in MC, it was important for me to stand my ground even if H was having a fit.
And guess who was listening in MC after all? We started down the road of a brief tiff tonight before bed - the subject matter isnt important. What is important is the change. Its something that would have been hurtful to me at least, developed into an argument at worst. And guess who stopped it, said to let it go, that we could talk about in MC if it was that important, and asked for a minute to calm down, then came right out an apologized! A full, complete apology for baiting me, for being easily angered, etc.
New behavior. He heard me in MC. I told him I just needed an apology - and I got it. Full on.