W still wants separation, need to DB more

[OfficerInNeed]

My issues were not confined to our M. I had a terrible R with my parents and nearly struck my own mother out of anger. I said so$me VERY harsh things to both my parents and had no remorse...till now. Everyone in my extended family and friend viewed me as a miserable a**hole.

You're right if I was not M to my W I would not had took the initiative to make these changes but that does not mean it wasn't necessary...in other words something would had happened sooner or later that would had prompted change.

As far as not producing results, I will say things today are far better than they were 2 months ago. The key being 2 months. I thought rule of thunb was for every year of bad it will be at least 1 month of change...if that holds true I still have work ahead of me.

I tried the your suggestions for a couple days and it set me back. She told me "see your the same person, you didn't change." Telling my W "if you want to go then go I will help you pack" when I told her that many tines in the past before the bomb was dropped really is not going to help... I should had been careful what I asked for.