My W knows I was getting counseling over the phone.
My W knows I went to therapy.
My W knows I still talk to a counsel via phone.
My W knows I go to church and read books on how to improve marriages, combat anger issues and express true love...
My W has not asked or showed one bit of interest in anything I have done or continue to do but I still do it because I want to continue to improve myself.
It never ceases to amaze me that people can see reality but won't accept it and use it accordingly in their situations.
Observe Reality. Accept Reality. Reality works.
Working against Reality doesn't work.
Do you believe that by working for your marriage that your wife is going to turn around and come running into your arms?
Your wife sees you busting your ass working super hard to fix your marriage problems and to fix your problems. How much effort is she putting into fixing her problems and how much effort is she putting into fixing the marriage problems?
I'll quote you on this:
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My W has not asked or showed one bit of interest in anything I have done or continue to do
Yet you continue to do things which are obviously not working because....?
You can't say you're doing it just for you, if your wife didn't exist and you weren't married, you wouldn't be doing any of these things to "improve" you.
Working at fixing your marriage is producing no results, I say take a break and regroup, you will burnout eventually and several weeks/months from now you'll be angry because you worked so hard to save this marriage and she still doesn't want to be married to you and that will breed anger and resentment in you because of all the effort you will have invested with no reward.
You are trying to use your male logic to solve a problem involving your wife's female emotions, this doesn't work, not the way you think it does.
