My WAW - Chat/Text Msg affair with her ex

[Dan1977]

I think someone said this was her ex-husband, but in fact he is her ex-boyfriend. In total she has only know this guy about 4 months. They dated for about 2 months before we were married, and they have been chatting/texting for about 2 months. It's a fantasy for her, this guy isn't real, it's some fairytale she's living. I read in Divorce Remedy that most affairs only last 6 months and they fizzle out. I hope that is the case here as well too, except I want it to fizzle out like yesterday. Maybe if I make it very hard on her to contact this guy, she will lose interest. If it wasn't for her taking my son to school and taking the kids multiple places during the day, I would shut the phone off but I want her to have a phone in case she needs to contact someone for whatever reason, flat tire, run outta gas etc...I'm a provider at nature and want to make sure my family has what they need, and maybe that seems like I'm a pushover.

Part of it is I know how damn stubborn my wife is, and I know the harder I push, the harder she will resist and she tells me this. She told me today for all the years I have known her, I should know to just give her space because if I don't, she will want to do whatever it is I'm trying to keep her from doing even more. But it's so hard just watching her have an affair in my face, I have to intervene. I'm not going to sit on the sidelines watching it happen and hope for the best. I'm so confused on what to do right now.