Mmmmwhaaaa! Yes, that's a big fat kiss. Thank you for explaining. I'm sorry if I misread. I feel better now. But I truly was hurt when I read it -- didn't really know how to interpret it as a "joke" I guess. I was still smarting from the mediation, which by the way I promised to fill you in on, so here goes:
My attorney told his atty that we weren't "going to get out of mediation without alimony," which apparently he does not want to pay. My atty. said that he should pay me alimony, especially since we've been married now almost 14 years. And, he should pay for attnys fees as well.
His attn told mine that he "REALLY wants the house," which by the way, would leave me homeless. His atty. told my atty that he could/would "buy" me out, which would be about $50K, from his retirement account. This is basically all I'd walk away with, from the marraige after 14 years.
So, essentially, $50K is all I'd have from this marriage since we have no children. He basically just wants me out of his life so he can screw around with 18-35 year-old prostitutes and "sugar babies." Yes, he's on that Web site too.
And since I'm 57, I would be not only homeless but in the poorhouse when I turn 67 because there would be no retirement income if he paid me off with it. This is the same "settlement proposal" he offered to me two years ago, to try and get me to sign, before he ever even filed.
Thats' my mediation story. Of course, now we are going to trial, and we have a "temporary support hearing" set for May 10. Please pray for me.
As for the "other" post, I will only comment once. Please don't judge me by saying I was "alienating people." I don't believe that's what I was doing. I've know What for as long as you have, and I can remember talking to him for two years now. We've always been friends. I merely was trying to defend my position of hurt, and I'm glad I finally posted it, so Whatis could explain why he said what he said. And, I'm glad he did.
If we don't talk about our hurts here, where CAN we talk about them, right?
It was not a matter of "alienation" but more of a plea for communication. If you judge me, which is what you did, you may be doing that to "people off the bb," and "it won't serve you well on your path..." either.
Please know that I'm not ammenable to negative judgement. I like you, but I have to protect myself. If someone hurts me, either inadvertantly, or through ignorance, it is my right and duty as a human being to tell them so.
If I keep my hurts inside me, I will never grow, and they will never know.
